Sadly, I am not. I was ostracized by my family shortly after I got sober over 30 years ago. I was the first child that my mother had forgotten. That goes back further though. It didn't matter that I was trying to get better and change my life. I made my amends and they were accepted by all, but they snatched them back as soon as I turned around. I have accepted that. And I probably won't know when my mother passes. It's unfortunate, but I have did all that I am willing to do at this point.
I don't even know them anymore. My brother just died three weeks ago and I found out a week afterwards from a family member that lives out of state. My immediate family lives on the other side of town. My hands are clean and there is nothing I can do about their resentments however valid or invalid they are.
Again, I am so very sorry... I can't begin to imagine all you have been through. Knowing that you're at peace with the situation is a blessing in itself. Just keep moving forward and know it's their loss. Be well.
Having been sober now 23 years and counting I was not complete ostracized by my immediate family. But, the family I had married into( over 40 years ago) do not “trust” the newer me because I am not MAGA scum. These folks have their own issues and I can’t/ don’t even bother having a lucid conversation with them. The new version of me makes me some sort of “threat” to their political views. They just fail to realize I was ALWAYS a Dem …..I just smile, laugh to myself and try, which at times is extremely difficult, to keep my exposure to these people to a minimum.
I can SOOO relate to the "in-law" problem. I hate to say it, but I did not shed one tear when my MIL died. I didn't know their polical standing, but my MIL was evil incarnate. She tried to ruin my reputation because I stood up for myself and refused to participate in her games. The problem with her "trying" to make me look like I was a monster, that she didn't see coming, was that you have to matter to me in order to make any kind of impact.
I will have 32 years in May ODAAT. My FIL died a few years after she did and before the trump fiasco. You know, before anyone cared about who we voted for. I miss those years! I lost a lot of friends because of trump and I am alright with it now. Shit happens! Take care. 😊
💔 Gosh... I'm so very sorry about your Mom as well... Hopefully you're able to walk that journey with her...
Sadly, I am not. I was ostracized by my family shortly after I got sober over 30 years ago. I was the first child that my mother had forgotten. That goes back further though. It didn't matter that I was trying to get better and change my life. I made my amends and they were accepted by all, but they snatched them back as soon as I turned around. I have accepted that. And I probably won't know when my mother passes. It's unfortunate, but I have did all that I am willing to do at this point.
I don't even know them anymore. My brother just died three weeks ago and I found out a week afterwards from a family member that lives out of state. My immediate family lives on the other side of town. My hands are clean and there is nothing I can do about their resentments however valid or invalid they are.
Again, I am so very sorry... I can't begin to imagine all you have been through. Knowing that you're at peace with the situation is a blessing in itself. Just keep moving forward and know it's their loss. Be well.
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Having been sober now 23 years and counting I was not complete ostracized by my immediate family. But, the family I had married into( over 40 years ago) do not “trust” the newer me because I am not MAGA scum. These folks have their own issues and I can’t/ don’t even bother having a lucid conversation with them. The new version of me makes me some sort of “threat” to their political views. They just fail to realize I was ALWAYS a Dem …..I just smile, laugh to myself and try, which at times is extremely difficult, to keep my exposure to these people to a minimum.
I can SOOO relate to the "in-law" problem. I hate to say it, but I did not shed one tear when my MIL died. I didn't know their polical standing, but my MIL was evil incarnate. She tried to ruin my reputation because I stood up for myself and refused to participate in her games. The problem with her "trying" to make me look like I was a monster, that she didn't see coming, was that you have to matter to me in order to make any kind of impact.
I will have 32 years in May ODAAT. My FIL died a few years after she did and before the trump fiasco. You know, before anyone cared about who we voted for. I miss those years! I lost a lot of friends because of trump and I am alright with it now. Shit happens! Take care. 😊
How sad for you. What a shame that your family wants to engage in petty feuds. It sounds to me as though you took the high road. The loss is theirs.
That's the way I see. Their loss! I appreciate your sentiment. ❤️
Wishing you the best Donna.
Thank you, Charlotte!
Right back at ya! 😊