let me once more repeat my comment from previous days off, "by the way, I am very aware of how lucky and privileged I am. most people do not have a hundred thousand or more people who care about them. that has to make a difference in the grieving process. so, once again, thank you. I love you all"
We’re equally lucky and privileged to share your observations and to the extent that a bunch of strangers can, to provide each other some measure of support during this difficult time.
EVERY word of every post above mine. We ALL feel the same way - it might have taken a tragedy to bring it out in some of us - but we care SO deeply and feel so lucky to be here.
You are most welcome Jeff. Again, we are here for you, as you are always here for us. You understand that we care deeply about you because we feel the reciprocity. You are REAL, as is our love for YOU.
There's really nothing I can add to all these lovely comments except to to say I, too, wish you every blessing that comes your way. We're here for you, Jeff.
Plus: the batshit crazy comment about the polls had me on the floor.
No matter how many people care about you, grieving takes time and there is no timer on that. We understand and we will still be here tomorrow or the next day or the next. You take care of you.
Take care, Jeff. ❤️ Going through pictures and memories can be bittersweet. You want to hold her close, but Jesus it hurts. Take the time you need, we'll be here whenever you have more to share.
I just thought the same thing... while I SO enjoy seeing these so-lovely photos, I realized today that they might be hurting him just a bit too much this soon. IF he wants to wait a bit before sharing them with us - I'm cool with that. I remember taking out all the photos of my Dad much too soon after he'd passed and crying buckets.
Dear Jeff, we are your biggest fans and supporters - besides your fam. BUT, I hope you are also seeking comfort and help through a counselor or grief support group or both. Taking a break from writing is all well and good, but that may not be enough. I know you are Mr. Manly MAN, but please seek additional support if needed. Because WE need you and think the world of you and want all the best for you, especially during this terrible time.
Hey man it's cool. Not like anything can happen in 24 hours... that we can do anything about, anyway. Seriously, who knew that the end of the world would be so fucking DUMB?
I know it is small consolation that you had the love of your life. She obviously was the love of your life and you will openly grieve for a year - mostly, maybe a little more. But she will always have a presence in your mind and heart. Take all the time that you need. We'll be here.
I would've given ANYTHING to have had that kind of mother - from New Joisey - or anywhere else. My best friend's Mom was born and raised in Brooklyn - she came close and mothered me so I DO feel I know some of this. It's MAHvelous, darling.
What a beautiful photo... Find some peace and joy in these images. You're going through the hardest thing imaginable. You've built a caring community here and we all want you to take care of yourself. Hugs from Missouri... now, anyway!
As you continue to grieve for Claudia. Please always feel free to take the time you need. I think grief comes in waves that ebb and flow. Do what you need to do for yourself. At a time like this. Your self care needs to be the priority Jeff.
We , your loyal army, will always be here waiting for you when you are able to get back to work❤️
He feels the need to tell us/to explain why. Let's give him that grace since it's who Jeff is. He'd feel weird NOT telling us why so it's alright. It helps me (and so many others) understand that 'today's an especially bad day'. It also helps us be gentler. On that note I'll mention tonight's Rachel Maddow show where she talked about some things, one of which was especially humorous. Seems there's a group called 'Secret Handshake' (I'd never heard of them). She showed the entire thing: they've created actual games in DC for people to play on machines for those interested ALSO available online - this one's called 'Epic Fury-ous'. ;) One gets to BE orange fuckwit behind his desk, one can smash a button to order diet cokes - or toddle down through the office to the fireplace where one can burn the Epstein Files (gives a list of how many are left). THEN it shows him sitting on his golden toilette. She said she was playing through the online game when she got to the part where jdvance pops up to tell his boss that HE took his cognitive tests for him, whereupon Rachel burst out laughing, causing her to screw up her game. We can still laugh at the morons while it seems more and more of the World is laughing with us.
I do not know how you find the energy to post so often and so well whilst grieving. I appreciate what you write that helps me stay sane. I would crawl into a hole and disappear without my spouse.
I feel the same Jules. We are all mortal. By sharing his grief, Jeff is helping us all tremendously. It is such a great reminder to take nothing for granted, and to live in each moment of each day.
“Spin” was a poor word choice. I like your take better, but yes, same team. I am appreciating a good play by a teammate. All-in-all, seeing people who can empathize with grief is what I expect out of folks who frequent Jeff’s community.
Why would Donny celebrate Mother’s Day? He’s loathed by the two living mothers of his spawn, and the other one is buried on his crappy golf course. His own mother couldn’t even stand the sight of him. And because she didn’t show him a modicum of affection, the entire world is paying for it.
This is really tragic if you think about it. Sure, he'll never feel the deep grief of losing someone he loved, but isn't it worse to live every day with the burden of grievances that never stop flooding your brain? Sad!
I find nothing tragic about him. He thrives off of grievance. Its his superpower that gets him.going in the morning. He has so much retribution to dole out he doesn't have enough hours in the day. He's not a normal person. I would take the deepest grief from the loss of somebody I loved (and I have been there...so it's not like I can't imagine what it feels like) because it means I was lucky enough to love and be loved. I bet the only loss that would put him in a straight jacket is Ivanka. He couldn't care less about anybody or anything else. Good. Let his grievances eat him up alive. He has so many, hopefully it will finish the job faster.
What is wrong with the universe? Because every day is That Motherfucker’s Day, to abuse every other person living in this messed up world, whether they know it or not
Can’t lay all the blame on his racist parents, as withholding as they may have been. It’s up to him to deal with his issues in other ways than destroying this country and spreading misery and suffering across the world, just saying….
Right Barb. We all grow up with the cards we’re dealt. Some of us are lucky, like me, and had absolutely wonderful parents (not perfect— none of us are—but I wouldn’t have traded them for anything in the world). But some of us seem to be just born evil. Granted, he had some horrible examples for relatives. He didn’t have to follow their lead but somehow seemed to be compelled to one up them. It is my belief that he was born with horns and a tail and there wasn’t anything that anyone could do to change that other than tell the creep “NO” on occasion (like every day…and usually several times a day).
Maybe there’s another person somewhere who sees the length of these batshit crazy Trump posts, just the length, sans a single line break, without even reading a word, and thinks to themselves, “Hmmm. Perhaps I shouldn’t vote for republicans in November.” One can hope. And maybe it’s even more than just one person.
Thanks for being here as much as you can, Jeff. Beautiful photos of you two.
One can only hope. Then again some of these repugs voted for him after he talked about immigrants eating their cats and dogs. I thought that was bat shit crazy enough to lose their votes but apparently not.
Thanks for replying Tess. It's nice to know that, in a world that has turned so cruel and mean, there are still kindred spirits with decency and kindness - like you.
You're welcome Ted. I loved your line about knowing we are human - when we experience heartbreak. We could use a few more people like you in this world.
And for those interested, the Carly Song is called "Coming Around Again" - I think!
let me once more repeat my comment from previous days off, "by the way, I am very aware of how lucky and privileged I am. most people do not have a hundred thousand or more people who care about them. that has to make a difference in the grieving process. so, once again, thank you. I love you all"
You never need to apologize for taking a break.
Ditto!
We’re equally lucky and privileged to share your observations and to the extent that a bunch of strangers can, to provide each other some measure of support during this difficult time.
So true!
When life is hard you can never know which small ray of light or kindness can reach through your pain.
Jeff is a brilliant, insightful truth avenger, and I admire that about him.
I am amazed and grateful that he shares his sorrow and sense of loss with us, and lets us know that our empathy does touch him.
We are a community of caring people, and I feel lucky to be a part of this.
EVERY word of every post above mine. We ALL feel the same way - it might have taken a tragedy to bring it out in some of us - but we care SO deeply and feel so lucky to be here.
👍, Cathy!
Very well said, Kim.
You are most welcome Jeff. Again, we are here for you, as you are always here for us. You understand that we care deeply about you because we feel the reciprocity. You are REAL, as is our love for YOU.
Amen to the responses that came before this one. Hang in there, brother. You are loved and appreciated more than you will ever know.
There's really nothing I can add to all these lovely comments except to to say I, too, wish you every blessing that comes your way. We're here for you, Jeff.
Plus: the batshit crazy comment about the polls had me on the floor.
He may as well announce that he's been added to the U.S. World Cup soccer team.
🤣🤣🤣
And he's an alternate Astronaut for the next Artemis Mission.
😁
Perhaps someone is reading them to him backwards...???
Good one!
Omygosh! Of course!!!
No matter how many people care about you, grieving takes time and there is no timer on that. We understand and we will still be here tomorrow or the next day or the next. You take care of you.
As long as it takes! This, absolutely - and far beyond.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words.
I am so sorry for your loss. 💔
Maybe think about a break with a few days or a week fishing or something else you like to do and shut out all of this for a bit. We’ll wait.
Do whatever you need to do to, Mr Jeff. We're with you.
Take care, Jeff. ❤️ Going through pictures and memories can be bittersweet. You want to hold her close, but Jesus it hurts. Take the time you need, we'll be here whenever you have more to share.
I just thought the same thing... while I SO enjoy seeing these so-lovely photos, I realized today that they might be hurting him just a bit too much this soon. IF he wants to wait a bit before sharing them with us - I'm cool with that. I remember taking out all the photos of my Dad much too soon after he'd passed and crying buckets.
We love you too, and we all wish nothing but the best for you.
Please stay strong and keep smiling at the little things. Those smiles add up.
And remember this: Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
Dear Jeff, we are your biggest fans and supporters - besides your fam. BUT, I hope you are also seeking comfort and help through a counselor or grief support group or both. Taking a break from writing is all well and good, but that may not be enough. I know you are Mr. Manly MAN, but please seek additional support if needed. Because WE need you and think the world of you and want all the best for you, especially during this terrible time.
Hey man it's cool. Not like anything can happen in 24 hours... that we can do anything about, anyway. Seriously, who knew that the end of the world would be so fucking DUMB?
Wishing you the best nonetheless! Glad you are prioritizing self-care!
the 'firsts' - first Mother's Day, first Anniversary, first next Birthday will be especially tough.
We're so very sorry.
So very sorry Jeff and wishing there was more we could do, even though you say our caring helps.
I know it is small consolation that you had the love of your life. She obviously was the love of your life and you will openly grieve for a year - mostly, maybe a little more. But she will always have a presence in your mind and heart. Take all the time that you need. We'll be here.
Gotta TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION TO THIS MATTER…!
Incidentally, there's a cute old hippie dude hiding behind Claudia. Who could that be?
Looks like Eric Clapton at his hottest 🤗
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYKG9dsxFfM/?igsh=bThxeTMxdGU2Ymo3
A feel-good from NJ 🤌
lol 😝
OMG as a former NJ girl, so true!
I would've given ANYTHING to have had that kind of mother - from New Joisey - or anywhere else. My best friend's Mom was born and raised in Brooklyn - she came close and mothered me so I DO feel I know some of this. It's MAHvelous, darling.
“just when you think you’re out… they pull you back in”
Love it!🤣
You tell him, P123Sunny!
What a beautiful photo... Find some peace and joy in these images. You're going through the hardest thing imaginable. You've built a caring community here and we all want you to take care of yourself. Hugs from Missouri... now, anyway!
What Susan said.
As you continue to grieve for Claudia. Please always feel free to take the time you need. I think grief comes in waves that ebb and flow. Do what you need to do for yourself. At a time like this. Your self care needs to be the priority Jeff.
We , your loyal army, will always be here waiting for you when you are able to get back to work❤️
Jeff, please just take days off for self care. You don’t need to explain. We get it.
He feels the need to tell us/to explain why. Let's give him that grace since it's who Jeff is. He'd feel weird NOT telling us why so it's alright. It helps me (and so many others) understand that 'today's an especially bad day'. It also helps us be gentler. On that note I'll mention tonight's Rachel Maddow show where she talked about some things, one of which was especially humorous. Seems there's a group called 'Secret Handshake' (I'd never heard of them). She showed the entire thing: they've created actual games in DC for people to play on machines for those interested ALSO available online - this one's called 'Epic Fury-ous'. ;) One gets to BE orange fuckwit behind his desk, one can smash a button to order diet cokes - or toddle down through the office to the fireplace where one can burn the Epstein Files (gives a list of how many are left). THEN it shows him sitting on his golden toilette. She said she was playing through the online game when she got to the part where jdvance pops up to tell his boss that HE took his cognitive tests for him, whereupon Rachel burst out laughing, causing her to screw up her game. We can still laugh at the morons while it seems more and more of the World is laughing with us.
I do not know how you find the energy to post so often and so well whilst grieving. I appreciate what you write that helps me stay sane. I would crawl into a hole and disappear without my spouse.
I feel the same Jules. We are all mortal. By sharing his grief, Jeff is helping us all tremendously. It is such a great reminder to take nothing for granted, and to live in each moment of each day.
I like your spin better.
Well thank you Jules. It's not really my spin as I would not have commented had I not seen your comment first. It is a team effort. Thank you!
“Spin” was a poor word choice. I like your take better, but yes, same team. I am appreciating a good play by a teammate. All-in-all, seeing people who can empathize with grief is what I expect out of folks who frequent Jeff’s community.
Great point Jules, and couldn't the world always use a few more people who can empathize with grief? Seems impossible in such a heartless world.
But it can be done. Jeff has proven it, we've proven it.
Why would Donny celebrate Mother’s Day? He’s loathed by the two living mothers of his spawn, and the other one is buried on his crappy golf course. His own mother couldn’t even stand the sight of him. And because she didn’t show him a modicum of affection, the entire world is paying for it.
This is really tragic if you think about it. Sure, he'll never feel the deep grief of losing someone he loved, but isn't it worse to live every day with the burden of grievances that never stop flooding your brain? Sad!
I find nothing tragic about him. He thrives off of grievance. Its his superpower that gets him.going in the morning. He has so much retribution to dole out he doesn't have enough hours in the day. He's not a normal person. I would take the deepest grief from the loss of somebody I loved (and I have been there...so it's not like I can't imagine what it feels like) because it means I was lucky enough to love and be loved. I bet the only loss that would put him in a straight jacket is Ivanka. He couldn't care less about anybody or anything else. Good. Let his grievances eat him up alive. He has so many, hopefully it will finish the job faster.
What is wrong with the universe? Because every day is That Motherfucker’s Day, to abuse every other person living in this messed up world, whether they know it or not
Can’t lay all the blame on his racist parents, as withholding as they may have been. It’s up to him to deal with his issues in other ways than destroying this country and spreading misery and suffering across the world, just saying….
Right Barb. We all grow up with the cards we’re dealt. Some of us are lucky, like me, and had absolutely wonderful parents (not perfect— none of us are—but I wouldn’t have traded them for anything in the world). But some of us seem to be just born evil. Granted, he had some horrible examples for relatives. He didn’t have to follow their lead but somehow seemed to be compelled to one up them. It is my belief that he was born with horns and a tail and there wasn’t anything that anyone could do to change that other than tell the creep “NO” on occasion (like every day…and usually several times a day).
Trouble is, he doesn’t have the capacity. ‘Why should I reflect, everyone loves me’ 🤯
Having never met Claudia these photos still make me well up. Thank you for sharing them. This must be so hard.
Right?! Every time. 💜
Thank you for checking in, Jeff. We will wait for you.
Maybe there’s another person somewhere who sees the length of these batshit crazy Trump posts, just the length, sans a single line break, without even reading a word, and thinks to themselves, “Hmmm. Perhaps I shouldn’t vote for republicans in November.” One can hope. And maybe it’s even more than just one person.
Thanks for being here as much as you can, Jeff. Beautiful photos of you two.
One can only hope. Then again some of these repugs voted for him after he talked about immigrants eating their cats and dogs. I thought that was bat shit crazy enough to lose their votes but apparently not.
Please take care of yourself. Come back when you are ready. We will be here
Please don’t worry about us… just take care of yourself. Come back when you are ready. We are here now- and will be then.
Self-care is also part of grieving -- does not go in a linear way...Claudia would want you to be good to yourself...a part of loving one another.
My heart breaks a little every time. That's how we know we're human. Don't stop reminiscing and sharing,
That sounds like a line the Tinman says in the Wizard of Oz. From memory: "Now I know I have a heart because I can feel it breaking."
And of course Carly Simon's classic lyric - "Don't mind if I fall apart. There's more room in a broken heart."
I feel some of Jeff's sadness at missing Claudia. That's a heart break that hurts, hopefully for only a short time as we move through grief.
😭😭 That brought tears to my eyes….
Thanks for replying Tess. It's nice to know that, in a world that has turned so cruel and mean, there are still kindred spirits with decency and kindness - like you.
I'm very familiar with both references. Thanks for reminding me.
You're welcome Ted. I loved your line about knowing we are human - when we experience heartbreak. We could use a few more people like you in this world.
And for those interested, the Carly Song is called "Coming Around Again" - I think!
I agree with you 100%! Btw, I’m not reading Trump’s rage posts on his crappy app because it’s gives me a headache.
Good for you Richard. The sound of his voice gives me the yips.
That selfie of the two of you is utterly beautiful ❤️😢. Please take as much time as you need, and don’t apologise. 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Take care, Jeff. We love you and will hold down the fort.